Introduction
You might be surprised to learn that a bad marriage is not just a failed relationship but also an illness. Just like any other illness, there are symptoms and signs that tell us whether our relationship is healthy or sick. And just as we need to take matters seriously when we have an infection or disease, we should do the same with our relationships: treat them as seriously as possible.
Lack of communication
As you can see, communication is the key to a successful marriage. It doesn’t matter if you are talking or not; what matters is that you listen to your partner and give them a chance to talk.
Communication can be verbal and nonverbal. Verbal communication includes words like “I love you” or “I’m sorry.” Nonverbal communication includes tone of voice, body language, facial expressions and gestures (such as hand movements).
It’s important to keep in mind that these types of messages are not just limited to when people are talking on the phone—they also take place when there is silence between them! For example: if one spouse has been doing something that bothers their partner for weeks on end (like constantly cleaning up after themselves), then this could cause an argument about cleanliness which would lead into an argument about who does what around the house more often than others do it (which might be true depending on how much time each person spends doing similar chores).
Being critical of each other
Criticism can be a sign of insecurity. Many people feel criticized by their spouses and react with anger, frustration, or irritation. This is understandable—but it’s also destructive to the relationship because it makes both partners defensive and less able to communicate effectively. If you find yourself criticizing your spouse regularly (or during times when you should be comforting each other), take a step back and ask yourself: “Am I being too critical? Is there something else going on here? Am I being too sensitive?”
If so, try these tips for dealing with criticism:
Speak in terms of your own needs instead of about what your partner does wrong (e.g., “I’m not happy with how many dishes were left in the sink after dinner last night…and I just don’t understand how it got cleaned up right away without someone saying anything about it!”)
Ask if there’s anything else bothering you besides this specific issue—you may find additional issues related to what they did wrong!
Changing the rules
Changing the rules: Changing the way you do things or make decisions can be one of the most damaging things you can do to your marriage. If a rule has been in place for years, it’s easy to imagine that it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. But what if we told you that there are many other ways to change things?
Making sure everyone is on the same page: No matter what kind of relationship we’re talking about (whether it be with family members or significant others), communication is key! Make sure everyone involved knows exactly where they stand regarding any given situation before making any big changes. This will help prevent confusion and disappointment when things don’t work out as planned—or worse yet, cause anger and resentment between couples who weren’t even aware that such drastic changes had occurred!
Not asking for help
It is okay to ask for help. Even if you think that you can handle it on your own, sometimes a little help from others can be very helpful.
You need to be able to ask for help when you need it. If there’s something that is bothering or stressing out both of you in your marriage and causing stress for the whole family then it’s time for the two of us (and hopefully some other family members) to sit down together and talk about how we’re feeling.
In my experience as an LMFT, I’ve found that most couples are able to get through whatever issues they may have by being intentional about their relationship with one another over time – even if those issues include difficult conversations like asking each other whether they think things will ever work out between them again after an argument or fight!
Disrespect and abuse
Abuse is not just physical. Abuse can be emotional and verbal as well, and it doesn’t always look like you think it will.
If you’re worried about your partner’s behavior, here are some things to look out for:
Is he different around other people? Does he seem uncomfortable or fidgety when he’s around his friends or family members? If so, this could be a sign of verbal or emotional abuse.
Is there any way that you feel uncomfortable in certain situations together (like at home)? If so, this could indicate an issue with intimacy in your relationship—and may even lead to physical violence if left unchecked!
Talking behind your partner’s back
One of the most common myths about marriage is that it’s a good idea to talk about your partner behind their back. You might think you’re being supportive by telling others how much you love them, but in reality, this only serves to create distance between you and your spouse.
Don’t be a gossip—this can be harmful for both parties involved! If there’s something going on with your spouse that concerns you, keep these things private until they have resolved themselves naturally or through therapy sessions with professionals who specialize in helping people deal with issues like this one.
If someone has asked for advice on something related to their relationship (like what foods are healthy), don’t give unsolicited advice unless specifically asked for it by the person receiving said information—and even then only if he or she asks nicely enough!
A bad marriage is not just a failed relationship but also an illness.
Marriage is a long-term commitment. It’s not something that you can pick up and put down like a pair of shoes, especially if you’re getting married because it’s what everyone else is doing. A bad marriage is not just a failed relationship but also an illness—a disease that needs treatment and attention from both parties in order for it to be cured.
Marriage isn’t just about finding someone who will love us forever; it requires us to learn how to love ourselves well enough so that we can give our best selves away in return.
This means taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally, learning how to communicate effectively with others (including our partner), and working hard on ourselves throughout the day so we feel good about who we are as individuals outside work hours as well as at home before heading out into the world together again after dinner time has come around once more!
Conclusion
The sooner you seek help, the better. If your marriage is not working out, it can be a good idea to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor.
